Sex After 40 for Women: Get a Healthy Orgasm Back

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Sex after 40 doesn’t have to be orgasm free for women. The G-spot may also have nothing to do with pleasure too. Here are some essential tips!

Did you know that 15 percent of women have never actually experienced an orgasm? In fact, only one out of ten reports having them during sex. That’s because having an orgasm is not all that simple for women.

You need a complex dance of physical stimulation and reaction. When your privates are touched and respond accordingly, a stream of electrical signals will be sent to your brain. And then your vagina is lubricated, blood is pumped to the appropriate area, and your breathing increases.

 

f every part of those links has done its job, you get to feel, well, pleasure. As our bodies age though, there will be greater chances that one of those steps will get skipped. Getting an orgasm will, therefore, become more elusive and harder to achieve, especially for women having sex after 40.

But do not despair. Sex after 40 for women can still bring back that orgasm. Here are some of the reasons why you may have lost your groove, and some easy tips on how to get it back. Plus searching for your G-spot may not be your only option.

Here are a few sex after 40 orgasm tips for women to get your groove back.

 

Decrease in Hormone Levels Affect Sex After 40

For women who are close to hitting menopause, bodies start to make changes that usually affect hormone levels. Ovaries become less active and decrease the production of testosterone, which is the key to our libido. That’s the reason why sex drive usually drops as we get older.

If you’ve noticed that your sex drive has taken a huge downshift, then hormones are most likely the culprits. As a result, sex after 40 for women can become less enticing, even to the point of becoming non-existent, which also make most result to obsessing in finding their G-spot. 

 

Dry Vagina Decreases Chance of Orgasm

For women, ovaries begin to produce less estrogen as you get older. This hormone is responsible for keeping your vagina lubricated for sex and could make sex after 40 more pleasurable. Without prior lubrication though, you will most likely be not interested in sex.

The possible increase friction brought about by the dryness can also make sex painful for you, which will probably end without having an orgasm. Decreasing estrogen levels also result to the thinning of vaginal walls and blood flow to this area will also lessen, which could contribute to more painful sex.

Sex after 40 for women, will therefore be less enjoyable and would most likely result to not having an orgasm. Even finding the G-spot may not be an option anymore with all of the potential pain.

 

Sex After 40 Tip for Women

The more sex you have, the more blood flow will be sent to your genital area, which will improve lubrication. You don’t have to do it alone though. There are helpful lubricants that you can get from your pharmacies. There are water based ones, oil based, and even silicon based as options. Try to bring them into foreplay and let them do the work for you.

For women who have estrogen decrease during perimenopause or menopause, you can ask your doctor about two prescription products that could be helpful in getting an orgasm even if you’re having sex after 40.

The first one is a small estrogen tablet that you insert into your vagina. It adheres to the vaginal wall and estrogenizes the vagina. Lubrication will be increased and pain and irritation during sex will be reduced.

The other option is an estrogen releasing ring that you insert into the vagina, which needs to be replaced every few weeks. You can also try getting estrogen creams that are available by prescription and over the counter.

 

Weak Pelvic Muscles Block that Elusive Sex After 40 Orgasm

The pelvic floor is full of muscles which hold up all of your reproductive organs. When we gain weight, have babies, or get older, the muscles get stretched out. This makes it harder to perform and experience intense muscular contractions and release of tension, which is very important for women to achieve orgasm.

 

Sex After 40 Tip for Women

Start to strengthen your pelvic floor by contracting your Kegel muscles daily. These muscles are the ones you use to stop your urine in midstream. But don’t exercise while urinating. Try doing it during any other time of the day like when you’re sitting at traffic lights, watching TV, or at your desk typing or writing.

Squeeze them and hold for a beat or do quick contractions. Try to aim for 100 per day. It would also help if you exercise your transverse abdominals. They are the muscles that support your torso and helps in tightening your pelvic floor.

You can even get special exercise devices that resemble a vibrator, which will help you do Kegels correctly. This will definitely help in getting an orgasm even if you’re having sex after 40 and even if you don’t find your G-spot.

 

Will Sex After 40 Surgery be Safe?

In the last few years, there has been a lot of talk about vaginal rejuvenation surgery. The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists do not endorse it because it hasn’t really shown any positive impact on a woman’s sex life.

There are women who say it personally helped them even if they’re having sex after 40 and even if they’re not searching for their G-spot. For women who are seriously considering the procedure, speak with a gynecologist who has plenty of experience performing the surgery.

Be reminded that there are crucial nerves and blood vessels in your vagina that are the center of sexual activities. Most experts suggest that you should ask yourself why you want to undergo such a radical step. Never do it just to please your partner.

 

Stop Obsessing About the G-Spot

A recent study from the Journal of Sexual Medicine created a huge controversy when it declared that the G-spot may not exist. Experts who say that the G-spot does exist say that it lies in the same place as a man’s prostate gland near the urethra. You will actually know you have found it if you get the feeling of wanting to urinate when it’s stimulated.

Whether experts believe that the G-spot exists or not, all agree that you should not focus on finding the G-spot. If the search is fun, then go ahead and keep exploring. You may even begin on your own before you ask your partner to search for its actual location.

If it’s not fun anymore and just starts to become taxing, then stop. Clitoral orgasm is much easier for women to achieve even if you’re having sex after 40.

Having sex after 40 should be pleasurable and not painful or stress inducing. The rule of thumb is if it’s fun, do it. If it’s not, then stop. Don’t overthink things. If you start to notice uncomfortable feelings or pain, consult your doctor. Never consider having a surgery just to please a partner.

Do you have orgasm questions when it comes to sex after 40? Ask a doctor online today for free!


Dr. Red Alinsod Bio: Board Certified gynecologist specializing in aesthetic vulvovaginal surgery, non-surgical feminine rejuvenation, ThermiVa, O-Shot. Over 20 year career as a pelvic surgeon and Urogynecologist. Available for consultation and treatments dealing with issues of the vulva/labia/vagina such as cosmetics and functional defects such as cystocele, rectocele, labial enlargement and asymmetry.

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