7 Hard Truths People Don’t Like To Admit, But You Will Benefit A Lot If You Do

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1. Material possessions won’t make you better or happier.

2. You can’t make everyone happy. If it is your goal, you are bound to lose yourself.

3. Being perfect is unrealistic. Being a better version of yourself is what you should pursue.

4. Your achievements and successes won’t matter as much as your precious memories on your death bed.

5. The more you want to find happiness in the outside world, the more likely you’ll fail. Happiness is not a treasure to be found, but can be built within ourselves.

6. Your actions speak louder than your words. Stop trying to influence others by what you say, but instead what you do.

7. You will die and you have no idea when. Grasp every moment to achieve what you want in this world. Make memories and find meaning in your life where you can.

 

 

Edited from https://www.ideapod.com/idea/8-Hard-Truths-People-Dont-Like-To-Admit-But-Youll-Benefit-A-Lot-If-You-Do/57e09c3b165eb82c120add17

 

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Organise Your Way To Good Health

“There’s nothing more important than our good health – that’s our principal capital asset.”

– Arlen Specter

 

The Most Basic Rules Of Health

  • Wake up early
  • Regular exercise at stated times. It should be moderate and given up as soon as one feels you feel you have moderately challenged yourself. Excess is to be avoided. It could cause harm.
  • Take steps to reduce stress in your life
  • Drink 2 litres of water a day.
  • Eat a healthy, balanced diet.

Obviously, there are other components. However, these are the most basic ones. If you struggle with functioning look at introducing these elements back into your life where possible.

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There are some steps you can take that look after your physical health and your stress levels, if you are constantly stressing about your health or money!

  • Brush your teeth twice a day + floss + mouthwash –Dental Bills!
  • Walk where you can – Keeps functioning up, mood boosted and saves on gym bills because your getting exercise in completely free!
  • Exercise with a friend – perhaps share the gas money to a class, price of a personal trainer or just enjoy the benefits of their company on your mood.

 

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A little motivation for you… 🙂

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Do You Treat Yourself Lovingly?

 

I often find myself mentally, beating myself up, for a lack of a better word. I am subconsciously telling myself all these things without even questioning them. If I’m always beating myself up in my own head, how can I expect to be happy?

I think a lot of women struggle with similar issues too. And men!

Our image of ourself and how we think other people perceive us is very much based on how we talk to and perceive ourselves.

Therefore, I think the journey to happiness really starts in our own head.

But how can we start the journey? Start trying to practice self love….

 

What Is Self-Love?

Sure it sounds really cliche. However, as we can see from above it could really help us. Change starts at home!

Self-love is defined as:

“regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.”

You don’t have to think you are the bomb, or that you are somehow amazing! That is so tricky for anyone to think about themselves.

Self-love is simply wanting the best for yourself and looking after yourself because you think you are worth that effort.

Once you get over that common misconception. Practicing self-love is a little bit easier.

 

 

Some Ideas To Practice Self-Love:

  • Exercise
  • Forgive yourself for your mistakes
  • Occasionally splurge on something for yourself
  • Meditate
  • Support your own dreams
  • Stand up for yourself
  • Take a bubble bath (I can’t just sit in the bath. I recommend relaxing spa music, candles, lights out, a mud pack and set yourself a time say 10 minutes, and you can build up as you get better at giving yourself some you time)
  • Remind yourself that someone’s opinion of you IS their opinion and not a fact.
  • Remind yourself that the things you automatically think about yourself are not necessarily fact! The things you think are most like biased. If you have a negative thinking pattern, you will think more negatively about yourself, than perhaps you are.
  • Rest if you need it!
  • Learn to accept yourself the way you are.

 

Further Support

Self Love Worksheet By Dawbarclay.com

Self Acceptance Work Sheets By Lazymomsblog.com

 

How useful did you find this blog post? Let me know in the comments below 🙂 

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Kayln Nicholson – How To Adult 101!!

Hi guys,

I have recently started following Kayln Nicholson on Youtube. And I think she is fantastic! She has recently started doing a new series called ‘how to adult 101’. I think this is my favourite Youtube series to date!

The series covers tips, tricks and hacks to lead a strong, confident, better adult life. I think it is awesome. It covers some of the things people assume we can do everyday, but we perhaps end up feeling inadequate because we don’t actually kn0w or have learnt how to do these.

So I wanted to share this with you guys. Because this blog is all about helping women become more strong confident and empowered, I feel this fits really well into our theme.

So below I have included the links to the videos in the series I have watched so far and found really helpful. I will continue to add more, as I watch more and find their useful!

Definitely go over and check out her Youtube channel as well, because there is so much more than this series on there. She is great! I have left the link below 🙂

 

The Videos

 

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#Best Night In Freshers Campaign

 

Taken from studentminds.org.uk

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We’ve been noticing something odd about social media. According to social media, everyone is having an amazing time… all the time. If we are to believe social media, then everyone is out partying with their best mates every night. We don’t believe it! We know that for many of you, the best night isn’t a night out and there’s lots more to get up to during Freshers’ Week.

We are inviting you to join us as we reclaim social media. The task is simple:
Post a picture on Twitter, Instagram or Facebook of your night in, and share it with the hashtag #BestNightIn.

WHAT’S YOUR BEST NIGHT IN?

There are lots of expectations we have about university, especially to do with nights out and clubbing. A lot of these expectations are set in our first few weeks and go on to dictate our university social lives well after Freshers’ Week.

You see this most often through students Facebook or Instagram photos or Tweets. The trouble is, we only post photos of our parties and our pranks; the exciting times. We don’t share photos of our quieter evenings, of the things we do for a break or to look out for ourselves. It is time for us to stop feeling like we are missing out every time we choose to stay in.

As Freshers’ Week gets started all over the UK, we’ll be sharing your #BestNightIn photos to help students feel confident to do what they want during their first few weeks at university. Together we can remind every student in the UK that students really do stay in and there’s so much out there to make your #BestNightIn.

From the 12th September we want you to tell us about your Best Night In: share a photo and add the hashtag #BestNightIn.

Last year’s #BestNightEver campaign interacted with over 1000 people through the Student Minds website and we received over 50 #BestNightEver photos across our pages. During the first two days of the campaign, we saw a noticeable change in how people talked about their Freshers’ Week.


#BESTNIGHTIN 2016 EXAMPLES

Here are some of the best photos shared to our social media channels:


DO YOU WANT TO SHARE YOUR SUPPORT FOR THE #BESTNIGHTIN CAMPAIGN?

1) Any time between the 12th September – 7th October, share any of the following messages on Facebook or Twitter:

“Join @StudentMindsOrg to share your Freshers’ Week #BestNightIn! http://ow.ly/lgfY303UG6k”

“Be proud of your nights in. Share a your #BestNightIn with @StudentMindsOrg for your Freshers Week http://ow.ly/lgfY303UG6k”

2)Download Best Night In images below to share on your Instagram, Facebook or Twitter!

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FINAL NOTE

At Student Minds we’re using #BestNightIn to show students that they’re able to make their time at university whatever they want it to be and there’s no ideal university experience that is perfect for everyone.

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Three Strategies For Turning Off Your Workaholic Alter-Ego

Shared from http://30ontap.com/

 

By Christine McLean

Having a goal-oriented mindset is both a blessing and a curse. Goals keep you centered and focused. They give you a purpose in life. A life without purpose leaves people sailing through the wind, trusting the wind to guide them on the right path. Truly ambitious individuals, however, have to work their asses off to achieve their goals. If they aren’t careful, their lives become consumed by work. As Rihanna’s new hit song (that very few people understand) says, “Work, work, work!”

Soon enough, these highly ambitious people are walking around with a workaholic alter ego on their shoulders. It’s a funny character. In one moment, it functions like an angel, telling us the good things we need to do to keep focused on our goals. In another moment, it functions like a devil telling us all of the good things we need to neglect in order to keep our goals in sight. Our sanity, our social life, and our relationships are thrown aside due to the influences of this devilish character. Stress reigns supreme. But, on the flip side, were getting that much closer to our goals right?

Someone needs to invent a remote that we can use to switch of that devilish workaholic alter ego that we have on our shoulders. Until that happens, we have to take matters into our own hands. We have to dominate our workaholic tendencies and regain some balance in our lives. These strategies are a good starting point for helping us regain that balance:

Stay Away from that Cellphone!

If you have to put caution tape around it and hide it in your underwear drawer, do it! Cellphones consume far too many hours of our days and make us too accessible. There is a reason why each workplace has stipulated working hours. Yes, you want to show commitment to your job by always being available to your boss, getting to work extra early, and staying at work long after everyone else has left. But at what cost? Put the cellphone away for at least an hour or two when you’re at home. Spend time with your family. Pay attention to your children. Relax with a glass of wine and a good movie.


Surround Yourself with Positivity

The energy we choose to surround ourselves with has a tremendous impact on our state of mind. You inadvertently become what you choose to surround yourself with. Surround yourself with people who are ambitious, but are actively demonstrating the ability to find a good work/life balance. You can learn a few things from them. These types of people will uplift you and help you appreciate the small things in life.


Focus More on Gaining Experiences than Material Things

Oftentimes our goals center on acquiring some new possession. We want the latest smartphone, MacBook, smart watch, high-end vehicle or whatever else these big retailers want to shove down our throats. Life is much more than the things we possess. When was the last time you actually made good use of your vacation time? Instead of allowing your vacation time to roll over into another year, make an effort to use up those days. Create a bucket list. Do something on that bucket list during your vacation. Yes, you may have to put off getting that high-end car for a few more months. However, it will be worth it. People who are more focused on enjoying life than acquiring possessions are much happier.

It’s time to break away from your workaholic alter ego. Don’t let life pass you by.

 

 

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When to Meditate?

Taken from https://bayart.org/2016/07/05/when-to-meditate/

When to meditate properly? Is there an ideal time for meditating?

In truth, the answer depends on what you hope to get out of it. So if there is no single best time for meditation, how do you decide when should I meditate?

Research has shown that meditation has many mental and physical health benefits. Daily meditation practice is ideal for reaping these rewards. In addition, brief mini-meditations can be done as needed throughout the day whenever you want to calm your mind and relax your body.

Two experts – Laura Maciuika, EdD, clinical psychologist and Stacey Shipman, MEd, stress management specialist – share their advice about when a good time for meditation and when not to. They agreed that the best time of day to meditate varies from person to person, depending on schedule and needs. But below are their recommendations for some good times to consider.

The first thing to understand is that it’s a good idea to pick a time and stick with it. When you practice at the same time each day, you’ll start to form a meditation habit, so that after a while you’ll find yourself just doing your meditation without needing to think about it too much.

When to meditate properly? Is there an ideal time for meditating? In truth, the answer depends on what you hope to get out of it. So if there is no single best time for meditation, how do you decide …

 

First thing in the morning as morning meditation routine 

Recommended for: daily meditation practice. Your routine first thing in the morning sets the tone for the entire day. Before breakfast is generally a good time to meditate. But for beginners, especially folks who are feeling stressed out, meditating at all can be daunting. In that case, I recommend simply putting your attention on slower, deeper breathing—even for just five minutes—early in the day before getting busy with anything.

First thing in the morning (at whatever time you wake up) is a really great time to meditate because:

  • Your mind is often more fresh and uncluttered without the tasks, worries and decisions that often fill our minds at other times of the day.
  • You get the day off to a good start and set yourself up for a better day.
  • You get it done first thing, so you’re less likely to forget about it or put it off.

One winter’s day I realised that the rising sun lands on your body and bathes you in warm light as you meditate. All quite sensible on a chilly morning! Give it a try sometimes, it’s a deliciously sensuous way to meditate! But you don’t have to wake up at the crack of dawn to meditate in the morning.

 

Whenever you’re stressed

Recommended for as-needed mini-meditation. Throughout the day, it’s helpful to meditate for a few minutes whenever you feel overwhelmed or pressed for time. Meditation can help you settle your mind, feel more relaxed, and think clearly about an appropriate next step or action. It sounds counterintuitive  and you can say:

“I don’t have time to meditate, I have so much to do!”…

But it’s often the thought of having too much to do rather than actually having too much to do that can create the stress.

If stress has you anxious, tense and worried, consider trying mini-meditation. Spending even a few minutes in meditation can restore your calm and inner peace.

Anyone can practice meditation. It’s simple and inexpensive, and it doesn’t require any special equipment.

And you can practice meditation wherever you are — whether you’re out for a walk, riding the bus, waiting at the doctor’s office or even in the middle of a difficult business meeting.

On your lunch hour

Recommended for daily meditation practice or as-needed mini-meditation. Of all the ways to use your lunch break to set yourself up for a great afternoon, the most important might be, well, actually taking a break.

If you begin to pair your meditation with lunch, pretty soon, you’ll think of meditation when you eat lunch, and it will become a trigger for you. Find a quiet nook in or around the office and carve out a slice of your lunchtime to sit in stillness to make it a habit.

A midday meditation break has a number of potential benefits. It’s an effective way to de-stress after a long meeting or difficult conversation. It can relax tight muscles caused by sitting slumped over a computer. By breaking your normal cycle of thinking, it can also boost focus, creativity, and productivity. Plus, it can be a great awareness building tool, allowing you to be more open-minded and accepting of others.

End of your workday

Recommended for daily meditation practice. Finally, as the day comes to an end and you start your commute home, try to do little meditation practice. For at least 10 minutes of the commute, turn off your phone, shut off the radio, and simply be. Let go of any thoughts that arise. Attend to your breath. Doing so will allow you to let go of the stresses of the day so you can return home and be fully present with your family.


 For some people, meditating at the end of the workday is the perfect way to create a natural boundary between work and the rest of life. For beginners or people who find meditation intimidating, using the breath to re-center then can work really well. It’s the intention to create a clear boundary that’s powerful. What you don’t want is to allow work thoughts to run into the evening so that you’re neither still at work nor really fully at home. You can miss out on life that way!

Right before bedtime

Avoid meditating too close to bedtime so that doesn’t become confused with relaxing into sleep. In meditation, we’re practising the opposite—falling more fully awake. Usually, it’s best to have an hour between meditation and sleep so that those two things stay clearly separate in your awareness, your body, and your habits.

Thank You

If you made it this far, I want to thank you for reading my words. You clearly have an interest in meditation and I honestly believe it is one of most beautiful gifts we can give ourselves and others. Here some tools to help you on this journey:

TinyRelax -free, android- makes it easy for people just learning the art of meditation.

This is a mindfulness and meditation app that is built around you. TinyRelax is perfect for those who are ready to incorporate meditation and mindfulness into their entire day, with meditations that target every aspect of your life, from sleeping to travelling, to being online. Even if you have never tried meditation before, TinyRelax is a life-changer.

30 Days of Meditation: Emotional Health and Wellbeing Workbook is designed to help you about improving your meditation habit

Source: When to Meditate?

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