The Positive Traits of High-Functioning Autism

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4 Ways Positive Thinking Helps Me

In response to the articles circulating on the Internet about why positive thinking is bad, I’m going to talk about why it’s good. It’s always helped me and I know it will continue to.

Trigger warning: I talk about my experiences with self-harm, in-depth, in the first bullet point. Feel free to skip down to the other three if you aren’t comfortable reading.

It kills negative self-talk.

I don’t have infinite self-esteem. I get discouraged, I doubt myself, and I tear myself down; it’s only human to do so.

Positive thinking allows me to break the thought process. Back when I self-harmed, I didn’t know how to stop the hate. I kept insulting myself, kept pushing myself, until I cracked and then I’d dig my nails into my arm to assert control again. It never made me feel better; it just numbed my emotions for a little while because of the shock.

When I stopped seeing my counselor, I resolved to be more optimistic starting that summer. I recognized that I was losing control to the negative thoughts in my head and I sought to get it back. Part of this results from practicing mindfulness for several years, but now I can turn my thoughts around within minutes.

Just the other day, I was reviewing the Finite Math test I recently took  and found out I made several “silly mistakes” because I misinterpreted the question. I felt stupid and inadequate. I thought that no matter how much I studied, I’d just flub up the class anyway since I clearly couldn’t even read the questions properly. And that was when I had my realization…

If my mistakes were so simple, they’d be easy to fix! No Venn diagram sleight of hand necessary! Needless to say, I felt much better after having this thought and finished my review in peace.

It’s a non-vicious cycle 

Positive thinking is an art form in itself, but once you get the hang of it, one thing leads to another and suddenly you’re on-top-of-the-world.

Often times, when I walk around my school campus, I’m actively working to release stress. Immediately, I try to let go of whatever’s worrying me and replace it with something else. Plugging in headphones and drowning out your thoughts is always a great last resort, but I like to re-focus my thoughts before I wear out my eardrums.

Just yesterday, I had a really tough lesson in Finite Math and, as I was walking towards the dining hall, I started thinking about this blog. Recently, I’ve seen a spike in traffic, I’ve solidified my voice, and got in touch with some awesome mental health activists. (More on that later.) All things considered, my blog is thriving and I can’t think about that without instantly feeling better. This is my first real step towards fighting the stigma around mental health; I can finally say that I’m living the dream.

Then I started thinking about how, even last year, I couldn’t have even dreamed of where I am now. Studying what I’m meant to at my dream university fighting for what I care about. Can it get any better than that?

Sure, I’m hitting hitches in the road, but that’s just a part of life.

Bottom Line: Having a positive lifeline can turn a bad day around.

It inspires others

As you lovelies know, this past Christmas I gave my dad a little book of inspirational quotes that I handwrote. It couldn’t have come at a better time for him because he was feeling particularly low after a slew of false alarms and failures in general.

Not even a month later, he interviewed for a job. (This is the one I mentioned last week.) Lovelies, I’m very happy to say that they did offer him the position, however, it turned out to have more travel than he could commit to. They’d have him flying out to all parts of the world for 2 weeks at a time every quarter and my dad just isn’t willing to do that so he had to turn it down.

Bottom Line: I’m not fishing for praise, but I can’t say for sure that my dad would have even had the strength to interview for this job without my inspiration blast.

By the way, I find it extremely fulfilling to lift other people up when they’re struggling. That’s why when you lovelies reach out to me about how my blog has touched you, I’m equally touched.

It helps me power through adversity

If I could tell my seven-year old self only one thing, I’d tell her it gets better. That one day she’d go to sleep at night feeling safe and content. That one day her battle wounds would heal enough that she could close other people’s. That one day she’d find all the answers she sought.

I didn’t see a way out back then. I figured I’d be stuck in darkness forever so I may as well accept it. As long as I believed that, I was stuck. It wasn’t searching for a needle in a haystack because there was no escape plain and simple.

Until I changed my mind, I had no hope. Now I struggle to find reasons not to hope for the best.

As Will the Krill (from Happy Feet 2) says…

“I fear the worst too, but only because fearing the best is an absolute waste of time!”

If you don’t believe in the light at the end of the tunnel, you have no reason to worry, you’ll never find it. If you do, pick up a flashlight and walk with me.

~Live boundless.

P.S. Update on my daruma doll; it was barely clinging onto the edge of my desk much like I’m hanging onto life by a fingernail right now. I’m not falling, I’m surviving.

P.P.S. I don’t see this week’s Boundless Challenge happening because a ton of schoolwork/homework piled up on me last minute that’s all due Friday. Sorry about that!

via 4 Ways Positive Thinking Helps Me — Confessions of a Reborn Girl

3 Favourite Quiz’s To Try Sep 2016

I know we all love a quiz that tells us a bit about our personality or how much we know. Here I have put together a list of the best quizzes I have done this month. 🙂

Have fun!! ❤

 

1 Which Nail Color Should You Try This Fall?

https://www.buzzfeed.com/anjalipatel/which-nail-color-matches-your-personality?utm_term=.puwA9rkyLn#.lgnYOAZra7

I got Dusky Blue. Really excited to try it! Let me know which you got in the comments!

 

2 What Should You Do To Feel A Little Better Right Now?

 

https://www.buzzfeed.com/anjalipatel/what-should-you-do-to-feel-a-little-better?utm_term=.eo7YRWqy6O#.lqyDmebo

A cute little flow diagram for when your feeling down ❤

 

3 How You Can Instantly Improve Your Office

https://www.buzzfeed.com/anjalipatel/what-should-you-get-to-improve-your-office?utm_term=.unQZ19j5RQ#.cxOj0gG6Yo

I got this cute little grass pot pen holder. Cause I like to get out into nature!  Love it!

7 Hard Truths People Don’t Like To Admit, But You Will Benefit A Lot If You Do

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1. Material possessions won’t make you better or happier.

2. You can’t make everyone happy. If it is your goal, you are bound to lose yourself.

3. Being perfect is unrealistic. Being a better version of yourself is what you should pursue.

4. Your achievements and successes won’t matter as much as your precious memories on your death bed.

5. The more you want to find happiness in the outside world, the more likely you’ll fail. Happiness is not a treasure to be found, but can be built within ourselves.

6. Your actions speak louder than your words. Stop trying to influence others by what you say, but instead what you do.

7. You will die and you have no idea when. Grasp every moment to achieve what you want in this world. Make memories and find meaning in your life where you can.

 

 

Edited from https://www.ideapod.com/idea/8-Hard-Truths-People-Dont-Like-To-Admit-But-Youll-Benefit-A-Lot-If-You-Do/57e09c3b165eb82c120add17

 

Organise Your Way To Good Health

“There’s nothing more important than our good health – that’s our principal capital asset.”

– Arlen Specter

 

The Most Basic Rules Of Health

  • Wake up early
  • Regular exercise at stated times. It should be moderate and given up as soon as one feels you feel you have moderately challenged yourself. Excess is to be avoided. It could cause harm.
  • Take steps to reduce stress in your life
  • Drink 2 litres of water a day.
  • Eat a healthy, balanced diet.

Obviously, there are other components. However, these are the most basic ones. If you struggle with functioning look at introducing these elements back into your life where possible.

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There are some steps you can take that look after your physical health and your stress levels, if you are constantly stressing about your health or money!

  • Brush your teeth twice a day + floss + mouthwash –Dental Bills!
  • Walk where you can – Keeps functioning up, mood boosted and saves on gym bills because your getting exercise in completely free!
  • Exercise with a friend – perhaps share the gas money to a class, price of a personal trainer or just enjoy the benefits of their company on your mood.

 

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A little motivation for you… 🙂

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Do You Treat Yourself Lovingly?

 

I often find myself mentally, beating myself up, for a lack of a better word. I am subconsciously telling myself all these things without even questioning them. If I’m always beating myself up in my own head, how can I expect to be happy?

I think a lot of women struggle with similar issues too. And men!

Our image of ourself and how we think other people perceive us is very much based on how we talk to and perceive ourselves.

Therefore, I think the journey to happiness really starts in our own head.

But how can we start the journey? Start trying to practice self love….

 

What Is Self-Love?

Sure it sounds really cliche. However, as we can see from above it could really help us. Change starts at home!

Self-love is defined as:

“regard for one’s own well-being and happiness.”

You don’t have to think you are the bomb, or that you are somehow amazing! That is so tricky for anyone to think about themselves.

Self-love is simply wanting the best for yourself and looking after yourself because you think you are worth that effort.

Once you get over that common misconception. Practicing self-love is a little bit easier.

 

 

Some Ideas To Practice Self-Love:

  • Exercise
  • Forgive yourself for your mistakes
  • Occasionally splurge on something for yourself
  • Meditate
  • Support your own dreams
  • Stand up for yourself
  • Take a bubble bath (I can’t just sit in the bath. I recommend relaxing spa music, candles, lights out, a mud pack and set yourself a time say 10 minutes, and you can build up as you get better at giving yourself some you time)
  • Remind yourself that someone’s opinion of you IS their opinion and not a fact.
  • Remind yourself that the things you automatically think about yourself are not necessarily fact! The things you think are most like biased. If you have a negative thinking pattern, you will think more negatively about yourself, than perhaps you are.
  • Rest if you need it!
  • Learn to accept yourself the way you are.

 

Further Support

Self Love Worksheet By Dawbarclay.com

Self Acceptance Work Sheets By Lazymomsblog.com

 

How useful did you find this blog post? Let me know in the comments below 🙂 

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Kayln Nicholson – How To Adult 101!!

Hi guys,

I have recently started following Kayln Nicholson on Youtube. And I think she is fantastic! She has recently started doing a new series called ‘how to adult 101’. I think this is my favourite Youtube series to date!

The series covers tips, tricks and hacks to lead a strong, confident, better adult life. I think it is awesome. It covers some of the things people assume we can do everyday, but we perhaps end up feeling inadequate because we don’t actually kn0w or have learnt how to do these.

So I wanted to share this with you guys. Because this blog is all about helping women become more strong confident and empowered, I feel this fits really well into our theme.

So below I have included the links to the videos in the series I have watched so far and found really helpful. I will continue to add more, as I watch more and find their useful!

Definitely go over and check out her Youtube channel as well, because there is so much more than this series on there. She is great! I have left the link below 🙂

 

The Videos

 

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