DIY 39: positive thoughts in a jar – http://wp.me/p6GteP-2R7
Hey pixels!! First day of 2017; did you had fun yesterday? I hope so, my happy pixels. The last day of the year is always special. It’s when we remember how time flies; and when we make a list of New Year Resolutions.
But, we really complete our resolutions list or we forget it? This is why I’m proposing this DIY, my happy pixels. It’s all about positive thinking and happiness. We, people, tend to remember better all the times when we do something wrong or when we are unhappy. But we tend to forget all the good things that happens to us every day. I want to change the game with this DIY.
How about this? If the last day of December you could read about all your best moments of the year, and remember all that happy events and thoughts you’ve had, I’m sure you would feel much better. Well, you can do it easily with this DIY. Keep reading, please!!
- 1 big box or mason jar
- our happy free-printable
How it works:
It can’t be easier, my happy pixels!! Just remember: when something special happens, or after a good day/moment, write it down on one of the cards. Store the card in the box/mason jar.
This way you’ll be keeping all this precious moments. Next first day of January, open the box/mason jar and read all the papers. You’ll be amazed remembering all the beautiful things that happened to you during 2017.
What do you think about this DIY, my happy pixels? Are you going to make it? Please, let me know in the comments below.
Meditation 101 – http://wp.me/p79VCX-2nR
I had always planned on writing a post about meditation and I’ve gotten several requests to do so, so here we finally are!
In today’s post, I’m talking about what falls under the definition of “meditation,” how to begin a meditation practice, and suggestions for practice, based on my personal experience and what I’ve found works for me.
Expanding on the definition
I think the word “meditate” can be a little intimidating for those that have not ever meditated or don’t know much about it. It can seem like a daunting task to start this new thing that appears to be a huge commitment in terms of time and effort.
I was listening to a really cool talk about a year ago that shed a lot of light on what the practice can actually mean, and it made a lot of sense to me. Essentially, the speaker of this talk was saying that meditation can be defined as any moment of the day in which you find yourself fully present in the moment and in a clear and peaceful state. He went on to say that if you are truly living moment to moment in peace, there really is no need to have to ever sit down and formally meditate—unless you want to, of course—because you have found a way to be in a consistent “meditation.”
This really struck a cord with me, because I don’t always sit down and dedicate a chunk of time to meditating, but I have certain moments of the day everyday in which I just clear my mind and feel instantly free of worries. It was really nice to realize that these moments too can be considered mini-meditations and I love feeling like I’m working toward staying in a more consistently peaceful state. It’s obviously really difficult to live fully present all the time, but I think it’s a really cool goal to keep in mind.
Starting a practice
I was so tentative to start meditating and procrastinated for so long initially, mostly because I wasn’t sure how to do it. But there is no right or wrong—it’s all for YOU and to make YOU feel better. If that means just sitting for 30 seconds with your eyes closed and listening to music, then that’s your practice. If that means sitting for 30 minutes in dead silence, then that’s your practice.
Your body and mind will tell you what you need and what works best for you, and the only “goal” is to feel even just a little more centered than when you started.
For beginners, I always recommend following some guided meditations, of which there are so many free ones on YouTube if you just poke around. I found them very useful when I was starting out, but I still love them now and find them easier for me to do than sitting in silence. You can find guided meditations that are more general, just for relaxing, and you can find ones more geared toward specific goals.
I really like Doreen Virtue and her guided mediations. You can find some free ones here.
Finding the time
As I was saying in the first section of this post, I find some of the same moments everyday in which to meditate or have my mini-meditations.
It has become an automatic thing for me to do when I first wake up, and when I’m in the shower. I always take a few minutes with my eyes still closed in the morning, before I reach for my phone, to just clear my head in preparation for the day.
My most peaceful moment of the day has to be when I take a shower at night. Something
about the water is instantly calming and my mind is so easily able to just totally empty itself and relax.
I’ve been doing it for so long that it has become an automatic mini-meditation for me, which is so lovely and I now look forward to it. I know I can count on that time to just reset my mind from whatever happened that day or whatever stressful thoughts I’m having and just re-center.
So even if you’re super busy, or nervous to start a practice, know that it doesn’t have to be some huge undertaking. It can be as little as one minute per day in the shower. 🙂 Then if you like it, you can try different things. But even the smallest amount of time can be beneficial, and you can’t know until you try!
I’m curious to know what your experiences with meditation have been and what you guys find works for you! Let me know in the comments when you have a moment, and thank you, as always, for stopping by. ❤
Depression, a mental illness that is often characterised by prolonged periods of sadness and melancholy (sadness with no obvious cause), experts from the field of psychiatry say.
But just because one person is moping around and just generally hating the world around him or her, doesn’t mean that it’s already depression. If this kind of behaviour, the feeling of emptiness, loss of self-worth and absolutely no hope for happiness just goes on and on, then, yes, that individual is indeed, depressed.
Still, there are various types of depression, from:
Manic or Bipolar depression – characterised by sudden and extreme changes in one’s mood wherein one minute he or she is in an elevated state of euphoria while the next minute (day or week) he or she is feeling to be in a personal hell.
Postpartum depression – characterised by a prolonged sadness and a feeling of emptiness by a new mother wherein physical stress during child birth, an uncertain sense of responsibility towards the new born baby can be just some of the possible factors why some new mother go through this.
Dysthimia – characterised by a slight similarity with depression, although this time, it’s been proven to be a lot less severe, but of course with any case, should be treated immediately.
Cyclothemia – characterised by a slight similarity with Manic or Bipolar depression wherein the individual suffering from this mental illness may occasionally suffer from severe changes in one’s moods.
Seasonal Affective Disorder – characterised by falling in a rut only during specific seasons (i.e. Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall). Studies however, prove that more people actually fall in to a rut more during the Winter and Fall seasons.
Lastly, Mood swings, wherein a person’s mood may shift from happy to sad to angry in just a short time.
Clinical depression however, or as some might call as ‘major’ depression, is actually the medical term for depression. Clinical depression is more of a disorder rather than an illness since it basically covers only those who are suffering from symptoms related to depression. Clinical depression is how doctors usually refer to “depression” when giving a diagnose of their patient. It’s basically just a medical term.
In spite of being a disorder, clinical depression can be treated. Doctors are highly optimistic that their patients who are suffering from Clinical disorder will be well on their way towards good mental health as long as they treated as soon as they have been diagnosed with Clinical depression. Patients who have been seeking for treatments for Clinical depression have proven to be quite successful in their quest. 80 percent of Clinical depression patients have been treated and has somewhat found relief from their disorder.
Hopefully this has been informative 🙂
Mental health, not the sort of thing most people choose to talk about seriously. Furthermore, sometimes people say something insensitive or said out of plain ignorance.
Suffering from depression or mental health problems, is something that most people feel ashamed to admit.
What about those people who don’t suffer from depression or have ever had a severe depressive episode? This brings me to the core of this article: How do you recognise depression?
It is so very important to be vigilant. To be aware of the warning signs, and the earlier they are spotted, the better. Why? Because being depressed leads to behaviour that is not helpful. Behaviour that over time, is reinforced day after day, month after month. Slowly but surely getting a firm grip on your life. It is much harder to spot a change in behaviour if it occurs and develops gradually over time. But what are these signs and behaviour that we should look out for?
The most common symptom of depression and one which most people think is the only one is having a persistent empty or ‘sad’ mood.
A feeling of pessimism, hopelessness or helplessness and being critical of oneself for never being good enough at anything no matter what we do.
Depression can lead to a lack of interest in pursuits someone usually enjoys.
Feeling lethargic or having no energy or drive is another symptom of depression that can slowly be re-enforced over time.
Trouble with sleeping is a symptom associated with depression. Sleeping disorders are often dismissed as having developed a mild case of insomnia that will surely go away over time. Some people wake early in the morning and are unable to fall back asleep.
Eating disturbances to, especially in women, can them cope with depression even if they don’t realise it.
Depression often goes hand in hand with anxiety. Anxiety can also cause sleeping disturbances, as well as a feeling of dread, increased heart rate and more severely, panic attacks.
Depression and anxiety can easily knock our confidence levels as both can lead to difficulty concentrating and remembering or making decisions.
These symptoms can climax with devastating effect. They can sometimes lead to a complete nervous breakdown. During this nothing makes sense and it can be very frightening when you are faced with a situation like this.
Depression can also manifest itself through persistent physical symptoms or pains that do not seem to respond to treatment.
Being irritable and losing ones temper are also symptoms of depression, (supposedly) seen more often in males than females.
Thoughts of suicide, attempts and plans are never to be taken lightly. Often, suicide attempts can be a cry for help – i.e they don’t know what else to do guys! For them it seems like like this is the only way to get help (near misses). Often it can feel like the only way to alleviate their suffering (via death).
Quick note on depression, suicide and self harm: The best way to try and understand how a depressed person is feeling is to get into the person shoes…..
Imagine feeling so hopeless, powerless and down that nothing seems worth it. You are tired and can’t physically do much. Everything is a struggle. You don’t feel like you re getting any where or progressing. You can’t sleep properly or get a clear head. A lot of negative things from your past have caused a reinforced negative thinking pattern in your own head. A pattern that feels impossible to get out and away from because it is in your head and the only thing you have ever known! Imagine feeling that no matter how hard you try you can’t get away from this because it is within you. Imagine the stress of every day life upon yourself with these difficulties. Imagine how such a thinking pattern and such symptoms lead to re-enforcing more negative behaviours and thoughts about yourself and life.
A person can be diagnosed with depression if four or more of the symptoms above have been present in a two week period or more. Not everyone will have the same symptoms so it is important to be aware and look for signs of all symptoms of depression. Remember, only a doctor or psychiatrist can diagnose depression.
7 Quick Ways to Take Control of Your Life Today (1 min read) – http://wp.me/p7hi1Z-DF
1. Stay optimistic and exude positive energy despite the surrounding negativity.
2. Work on being happy and become known for it.
3. Remember that there will be those who like you and those who won’t. Don’t waste your time running after the latter. Build yourself to become strong, and they’re bound to come to you.
4. Become more intuitive and tap into opportunities that are all around you in the matrix.
5. Operate with tacit knowledge, i.e., do what you do with confidence rather than just doing a task.
6. Repel inferior energy, especially while you’re building your own, or it will drag you down.
7. Remember that you may be lonely, but you’re never alone. The quicker you realize this, the less likely it will be for you to succumb to depression and other negative thoughts.
Overthinking thoughts and tips – http://wp.me/p6DeTd-cK
“The more you overthink the less you will understand.” – Habeeb Akande
It’s okay to think, because a friend once told me it is better to think than not at all.
However, sometimes some of us take it a step too far.
How terrible a feeling it is, to constantly overthinking, and then to doubt yourself.
Surely it is normal, but to what extend do the boundaries of normal go?
Here I am, seated at my desk trying to find the words to what I meant to tell today.
I am sure many others feel the same:
That sometimes we feel like nobody wants us
Or we misjudged an expression and we think we’ve done something wrong
Or perhaps we think that people judge us in ways we don’t wish to portray
Or that we are the ones at fault, and not the people we complain about.
Some part of us knows it’s just silly voices in our minds overthinking and doubting too much, and that is the worse part. We know it, but we can’t shake it off.
These are the things I am sure many of your already know, but I think many times we need a reminder that we are not alone. Because nothing feels worse than telling a friend about it, but not having the level of understanding we expect to have. That is when the feelings sink deeper in. That brings a whole new viewpoint of expectations and understanding – but that’s a whole new topic for another time.
Tips when you overthink:
- Confide in a friend who you trust to understand you.
- Confide to blogs !
- Distract yourself – Youtube, movies, music, writing, exercise
- I find exercise, movies and youtube especially faster when taking your mind off silly thoughts.
- Fix things – 2 ways
- Now what I mean is, if you really, truly feel like someone is mad at you, or something is really bothering you so much, talk to that person about it, it might just surprise you how much you have overanalysed a situation. But sometimes, perhaps to save us a little embarrassment..
- Wait it out – If you can, wait till the next time you see that person, and then again you might just be pleasantly surprised to know that nothing’s wrong.
It is never easy to reassure yourself and so I hope that as posts like this may help you. Let you guide yourself into not overthinking by first, taking out silly topics you tend to overthink. These are things such as:
- Whether or not this person really likes you or wants to hang out with you.
- Did I do something wrong so they don’t ask me out for dinner anymore, when CLEARLY you have not done anything.
- Does my best friend find me annoying for always calling? (She is your best friend, hellooooo?)
- Is my friend mad at me because I had to cancel?
There are certainly more, but just to name a few.
If you really have to, think of topics that can help you grow, topics that can help you figure out yourself better! Maybe it can even direct you to realising what better time you can spend instead, to figure out the more important things in life. BUT if you KNOW they can lead to further overthinking consequences, the first step to helping yourself is by choosingNOT look at them at all. Learning to help yourself is a first step!
Perhaps a reassuring note is what my friend said,”it is better to think than not at all.” Of course to not overthink is best, but I do not wish to see anyone taking it out of context and not think ahead. What I mean by this is essentially being able to thinking ahead of a situation, like a contingency plan, to be prepared. Some thinking can do us good, but slowly remove the craziest, pointless things you think off, and you find yourself more held together.
So this is my purpose today, to tell readers that sometimes we don’t have to feel alone. That blogs are out there trying to connect and tell you that we may not be physically there, but we are there. That there are people like me who can overthink to crazy extents but yet, I am still okay. It’s all going to be okay, just breathe.
To some this post might seem a little cringe, but for some it’s another reassurance that can give their mind some peace for the rest of their day.
don’t forget to always do something insane to stay sane, whilst being kind and grateful.